What is a Soulmate?

Hello,

        It has been a while since I’ve wrote anything but lately I have been getting a few requests to keep blogging and I figured if at least one person really wants to know what I am thinking then I might as well start up again for them. Remember do what you can to make others smile and if it means writing for you guys then I will.

       I have always been one of those people into love. In fact when I was younger (think grade school age) I would tell people I just love love! What can I say, I may not like it but I am a born romantic. As a romantic one idea that always stuck into my head was soulmates. I know soulmates exists I have seen it; it is pure, magical, and just true love. I also know though that there is no such thing as a “perfect couple.” People disagree at times it is just human nature, we are not perfect. If there is a couple out there that never fights however, bless you and teach me your ways please.

         I believe as a good writer it is always important to know your facts before you start writing as well as making sure your audience knows some stuff as well. The first thing I think we should all recognize is the technical definition of what a soulmate is and according to a quick Google search a soulmate is a person ideally suited to another as a close friend or a romantic partner.   Good job Google you get the award for giving me the simplest definition anyone could think of. I have come to learn that everyone has their own definition as to what a soulmate is and I will get to that later but for now how about some more information. I decided to try and see if I could find out where the idea of a soulmate came from, well what I could find the oldest record of soulmates were from Plato. Plato had a story about how humans were originally created with four arms, four legs, and a single head with two faces. A quick one sentence version of it was basically Zeus got threaten by them, tore them in half, we now had two genders, and had to spend the rest of our lives looking for our other half. I’m stilling trying to figure out honestly if the idea of a soulmate has really evolved much since then.

          Now the other day I was thinking about soulmates and my generation, I was wondering do millennials even know what romance is. I look around and see my generation sexting, meeting up for hook ups, people don’t get married as much, so many other things. I look at all this and just wonder what happened and where are the wooing gestures, the surprises, and the class? I want to see the guy plan a date out to dinner and then go play put-put or go watch the sunset and talk. If a girl is more of a feminist and wants to make the first move then by all means do it. It does not matter who makes the first move as long as you both are trying. I understand there are huge differences in my generation with being the first generation with this much technology, but come on. Nothing is going to replace a hand written letter there is just so much elegance with it. A sweet text you will not always get the chance to look back at it in 10 years but a letter or note you will. I have seen letters that are taped up because it has gotten refolded so many times. That right there you can see the love those two people have for each other through a piece of paper, by what is written in the letter and how worn out the paper is by being read so much. Thinking of what millennials value as romance for a lot of them made me wonder do we as a generation even believe in soulmates.

        This became my favorite part of getting ready to write, I decided to go investigate and star asking my peers what was their definition of a soulmate and what type of person/ personality would their soulmate be. I was honestly shocked by what I learned for some reason. All but one guy I talked to said that soulmates do not exist and with the ladies all the females believed in soulmates. Remember just because the results with the genders were similar does not mean that each person had similar answers. Most of the gentlemen said that they do not believe in soulmates but they all had a similar answer that involved being with a person you love/care about. The other gentlemen at first also did not believe in soulmates but after thinking about it said he thinks there might be soulmates out there but it would be extremely hard to find. With what type of person their soulmate was some of the answers I got had to be a sports fan, caring, and had to like cars. With guys I didn’t expect to get much explanation but I feel like I did a pretty good job getting a bit of an idea of what they think (at least a little). The females were (as always) more in detailed as to what they believed soulmates were. One said she believes in soulmates but also feels it was put into our heads more as we were growing up with the princesses and fairytales. She also said her idea of a soulmate is not a person who she never fights with because that is just not human but someone who is there for her and makes her happy. Most of the girls had very similar definitions as to what a soulmate is. I want to share with you two of the answers I got from people I asked one female and one male both of which I thought to be the best  for each gender.

“I don’t think soulmates exist. Even though I’m religious I believe the world is controlled chaos with each decision creating all different chaotic path. The only thing that holds it together is our perception and our belief but I believe for someone that you love the closest thing I could say for a soulmate is the person that makes all the fighting the hardships and stress worth it someone you know that will get in the trenches with you and have your back.” Male

“My definition of a soulmate is that there isn’t just one person for everyone. Each person has multiple soul mate that they meet throughout their life. These can be friends or romantic relationships and you can have more than one at a time. These may not last forever because we are still human, but they are people with whom we can connect to better than anyone else, even people we’ve known for a long time. These soul mates are people who make life easier to do the hard work that a relationship takes to maintain. For me, a soul mate would be a best friend with whom I can share anything and they have my complete trust. They would be a person who I would want to hear anything they had to say and them trust me. We would be equals in every way, but we would balance each other out. They would be kind, intelligent, affectionate, a huge nerd, and most importantly they would love me for everything I am, was and will be and I will do the same for them. I hope that I can find one of my soul mates as a partner for life.” Female

   I have shared what others have said in my generation as to what they believed a soulmate is and what they want as their soulmate, so I think it is time I share mine with you guys.  My definition of a soulmate is someone who is your best friend, that person who can make you laugh no matter what mood you are in. A soulmate is supposed to be that person that is always there for you no matter what happens and will do their best to understand. It is a connection between two souls that understand eachother. They are worth the fight and stress and they see you as the same. I believe without a doubt that your soulmate should be the person you marry but I also think that there might be another type of soulmate(s) were it is a best friend. Now with person/personality I would like to think it would be someone who shares the same values to me.  The person to make me smile and laugh when all I want to do is cry. He will know I can tend to be lazy at times and I need that push to go do the stuff I have to like (school work or cleaning). The person that I will always feel safe and protected with and never have a doubt in my mind that he won’t be able to, when something bad happens they will be the first person that pops in my mind. My cheerleader when I am down. This person will know that I don’t always feel like I have the time to eat or relax and will ask me if I have. When I say no and that I’m not hungry will follow me into the room a bit after I’m in there and make me eat just because he cares about me. I think the most important thing though is that he will be my best friend and I will be his and no matter how tough life gets or stressed life gets we know it’s going to be alright as long as we stick together and never lose faith in each other.

      I know I am still young and I have lot to learn about life but I hope I am not wrong with this. In case any of you curious readers out there are wondering if I have met my soulmate yet the answer is I’m not sure. I might have but I might not know till its time in 5 years. I once thought I met someone who was my soulmate but I was wrong, for now I’m just going wait and let life take its course. I have had a few people say to me they think I have met my soulmate or at least a form of one but honestly I think they are crazy, there is no way someone can know it and I don’t. However, that is my favorite type of soulmate theme with movies, when everyone in the movie knows two people are meant to be together but they aren’t yet so they are just waiting it out. It tends to be the funniest romantic comedies as well. 

Well Readers I’ll see you next time and I hope you enjoyed this.