Friendship ♥

Everyone has a friend and some of you may even have a best friend.  I am fortunate enough to have a couple best friends and a few friends. Friendship to me is one of the most special things we have in life. A friend is someone who you trust, can make you smile when you’re down, will never let you feel alone, and many more things. I have friends that are family members (like my sister) and friends who are not but feel like they are. Throughout my life I have people I thought were my friends but they are no longer in my life, I consider those to be more acquaintances now. A real true friend is someone who will never leave your life, yes we may go a while without talking but when we get the time to talk it is like we never had any time apart. Did you know that a study was done and it is said you can have up to five close friends? For most girls those are the five you have as your bridesmaids. I have been blessed with some truly wonderful friends in my life. I know my personality can be a handful for some to take in as well and I know what it is like to feel like you don’t have a friend, so I always try to make sure they know how they are to me. I want to say thank you to them and decided to do it on here. Maybe you have a friend that means a lot to you as well but don’t know how to say it; hopefully this is something you can share with them then.

    Dear Friend/Best Friend,

You are always there when I need a smile and laugh. You know my thoughts without them being spoken. You know my fears and my favorite food(s). You’ve seen me cry my eyes out and always threaten to kick the person’s butt who made me shed a tear. You’ve driven far just to make sure I was okay. We can sit in silence but feel like a thousand words have been spoken. I think of you and all I can do is smile. I need to tell you something, I need you to know just how much you mean to me. I want to tell you thank you for all that you do. I know you are rolling your eyes at me, smiling, and thinking I’m goofy for saying this, but you really don’t know how much I treasure your friendship. I have seen the loneliness of having no one but with you in my life I never feel alone anymore. I know I can be a pain too, but you handle so well. I’ve never had to hide who I was with you; you always accepted me for who I was. When I am scared you push me to get past my fears. You gave me a gift when you came into my life; you taught me how magical friendship can be. We may have had disagreements at times but we never let them get in the way of our friendship. I wish you could see how much you mean to me through my eye because words will never be able to fully describe just how important you are to me. You can take on a role very easily, if I need a mom, a conscious, a brother, sister, a filter for what comes out of my mouth, or I just need you. I never have to ask you just know which one to be for me. I can cry tears of happiness when I think of what you mean to me, so thank you. I trust you with my life and I will do anything to protect yours. My mind can go directly to you when I need help or protection, you never let me down. Thank you for letting me feel safe with you. You an Angel to me. Remember I will always be there for you just like you are for me. I love you! Thank you!

Love,

Cassie

I hope you guys liked that little letter; some of you might just be part of it. I tried to think of all my friends when I wrote it and not give away who I was thinking about at certain parts. I have had this thought in my head all day to write just how much I love and appreciate all of them, but sometimes it can be a bit more difficult to express what you are feeling on paper (even if you are usually good at it). Each one of my friends are so unique to me. I have one guy best friend who is like a guardian angel at times I feel like with how protective and wonderful he is. He is the friend I automatically think of when I am in trouble and need help. I have a few close girl friends but I would have to say two of them have always been there for me and are my best friends. One is like a mom/ older sister at times and is always there when I need to talk. She is my constant worrier about me and always tries to make sure I’m okay/ not doing anything stupid. My other best girl friend is my wild side. She always pushes me to do what I am scared to do. She is there when I need a helping hand but if she thinks I can do it on my own gives me word of advice and push me into the pool of life. Each friend is unique and I probably wouldn’t be who I am today without them. One thing I tell anyone I meet is that you mess with me and it’s whatever if you mess with my family or friends you better run for the hills because I will defend them till my last breath. Remember life is about the simple treasures in it and friendship is one of them. 

Ready For Fall?

  Fall is here and I figured I would share with you a list of what I love about fall (since I've been told my usual topics are very serious I'll relax with this one). Here is a list of all the things I love about fall (in no particular order)

1. Fall Foliage: I love the Fall Foliage! It's this thing Medina County does every year in October. You get this map and on it are places you can visit that go in big circle. Most of the places are farms you can walk around at, pick pumpkins/ apples, go on a hayride, and even go through a corn maze. I absolutely love it. I love the scenery of it and the atmosphere is just so happy. It doesn't matter the weather when this is going on I always have blast! This year they have a honey winery on the route and I must say I am looking forward to that. 

2. Pumpkin Flavor: Call me what you like but I just love pumpkin. When Fall comes around I go crazy because I know that it is the only time I really can get that flavor in things. One of my favorite pumpkin things are pumpkin chocolate chip cookies, I try to make a batch in October or November.

3. Taking Pictures: Taking Fall scenic pictures are so relaxing to me. I love the colors and the way nature looks it is so beautiful. To me fall means things are dyeing or getting ready to hibernate and fall does it in such a graceful/classy looking way. If you get the right lighting and you are by a waterfall with fall color leaves a picture like that can look magical.

4. Bonfires: Now I don't have/go too many of these, but nothing beats a cool night by the fire eating s’mores with friends and just catching up. It is a different atmosphere in the fall with Bonfires than in the summer. In fall everyone seems chilled with just being under a blanket and talking. Sometimes there might be a game we decide to play but mostly it is a relaxing environment. 

5. Halloween: I love Halloween mainly because it means I get to dress up. I like the spirit of it and let’s face it candy is always a nice bonus with this holiday too. There seems to always be a party that you can attend or even handing out candy is fun. This year my goal is to dress up as Super Girl and hang out with friends. 

Well there you have it folks, a list of things I like about fall. It may not be much but these five things make me happy when the fall blues start to kick in. I would love to know what you like to do in fall, leave a comment. Also I wanted to give a Shout Out to a good friend of mine who also writes a blog as well. If it wasn't for him you guys probably wouldn't have me back so go check out his blog. 

www.hangingwithrich.blogspot.com

What is a Soulmate?

Hello,

        It has been a while since I’ve wrote anything but lately I have been getting a few requests to keep blogging and I figured if at least one person really wants to know what I am thinking then I might as well start up again for them. Remember do what you can to make others smile and if it means writing for you guys then I will.

       I have always been one of those people into love. In fact when I was younger (think grade school age) I would tell people I just love love! What can I say, I may not like it but I am a born romantic. As a romantic one idea that always stuck into my head was soulmates. I know soulmates exists I have seen it; it is pure, magical, and just true love. I also know though that there is no such thing as a “perfect couple.” People disagree at times it is just human nature, we are not perfect. If there is a couple out there that never fights however, bless you and teach me your ways please.

         I believe as a good writer it is always important to know your facts before you start writing as well as making sure your audience knows some stuff as well. The first thing I think we should all recognize is the technical definition of what a soulmate is and according to a quick Google search a soulmate is a person ideally suited to another as a close friend or a romantic partner.   Good job Google you get the award for giving me the simplest definition anyone could think of. I have come to learn that everyone has their own definition as to what a soulmate is and I will get to that later but for now how about some more information. I decided to try and see if I could find out where the idea of a soulmate came from, well what I could find the oldest record of soulmates were from Plato. Plato had a story about how humans were originally created with four arms, four legs, and a single head with two faces. A quick one sentence version of it was basically Zeus got threaten by them, tore them in half, we now had two genders, and had to spend the rest of our lives looking for our other half. I’m stilling trying to figure out honestly if the idea of a soulmate has really evolved much since then.

          Now the other day I was thinking about soulmates and my generation, I was wondering do millennials even know what romance is. I look around and see my generation sexting, meeting up for hook ups, people don’t get married as much, so many other things. I look at all this and just wonder what happened and where are the wooing gestures, the surprises, and the class? I want to see the guy plan a date out to dinner and then go play put-put or go watch the sunset and talk. If a girl is more of a feminist and wants to make the first move then by all means do it. It does not matter who makes the first move as long as you both are trying. I understand there are huge differences in my generation with being the first generation with this much technology, but come on. Nothing is going to replace a hand written letter there is just so much elegance with it. A sweet text you will not always get the chance to look back at it in 10 years but a letter or note you will. I have seen letters that are taped up because it has gotten refolded so many times. That right there you can see the love those two people have for each other through a piece of paper, by what is written in the letter and how worn out the paper is by being read so much. Thinking of what millennials value as romance for a lot of them made me wonder do we as a generation even believe in soulmates.

        This became my favorite part of getting ready to write, I decided to go investigate and star asking my peers what was their definition of a soulmate and what type of person/ personality would their soulmate be. I was honestly shocked by what I learned for some reason. All but one guy I talked to said that soulmates do not exist and with the ladies all the females believed in soulmates. Remember just because the results with the genders were similar does not mean that each person had similar answers. Most of the gentlemen said that they do not believe in soulmates but they all had a similar answer that involved being with a person you love/care about. The other gentlemen at first also did not believe in soulmates but after thinking about it said he thinks there might be soulmates out there but it would be extremely hard to find. With what type of person their soulmate was some of the answers I got had to be a sports fan, caring, and had to like cars. With guys I didn’t expect to get much explanation but I feel like I did a pretty good job getting a bit of an idea of what they think (at least a little). The females were (as always) more in detailed as to what they believed soulmates were. One said she believes in soulmates but also feels it was put into our heads more as we were growing up with the princesses and fairytales. She also said her idea of a soulmate is not a person who she never fights with because that is just not human but someone who is there for her and makes her happy. Most of the girls had very similar definitions as to what a soulmate is. I want to share with you two of the answers I got from people I asked one female and one male both of which I thought to be the best  for each gender.

“I don’t think soulmates exist. Even though I’m religious I believe the world is controlled chaos with each decision creating all different chaotic path. The only thing that holds it together is our perception and our belief but I believe for someone that you love the closest thing I could say for a soulmate is the person that makes all the fighting the hardships and stress worth it someone you know that will get in the trenches with you and have your back.” Male

“My definition of a soulmate is that there isn’t just one person for everyone. Each person has multiple soul mate that they meet throughout their life. These can be friends or romantic relationships and you can have more than one at a time. These may not last forever because we are still human, but they are people with whom we can connect to better than anyone else, even people we’ve known for a long time. These soul mates are people who make life easier to do the hard work that a relationship takes to maintain. For me, a soul mate would be a best friend with whom I can share anything and they have my complete trust. They would be a person who I would want to hear anything they had to say and them trust me. We would be equals in every way, but we would balance each other out. They would be kind, intelligent, affectionate, a huge nerd, and most importantly they would love me for everything I am, was and will be and I will do the same for them. I hope that I can find one of my soul mates as a partner for life.” Female

   I have shared what others have said in my generation as to what they believed a soulmate is and what they want as their soulmate, so I think it is time I share mine with you guys.  My definition of a soulmate is someone who is your best friend, that person who can make you laugh no matter what mood you are in. A soulmate is supposed to be that person that is always there for you no matter what happens and will do their best to understand. It is a connection between two souls that understand eachother. They are worth the fight and stress and they see you as the same. I believe without a doubt that your soulmate should be the person you marry but I also think that there might be another type of soulmate(s) were it is a best friend. Now with person/personality I would like to think it would be someone who shares the same values to me.  The person to make me smile and laugh when all I want to do is cry. He will know I can tend to be lazy at times and I need that push to go do the stuff I have to like (school work or cleaning). The person that I will always feel safe and protected with and never have a doubt in my mind that he won’t be able to, when something bad happens they will be the first person that pops in my mind. My cheerleader when I am down. This person will know that I don’t always feel like I have the time to eat or relax and will ask me if I have. When I say no and that I’m not hungry will follow me into the room a bit after I’m in there and make me eat just because he cares about me. I think the most important thing though is that he will be my best friend and I will be his and no matter how tough life gets or stressed life gets we know it’s going to be alright as long as we stick together and never lose faith in each other.

      I know I am still young and I have lot to learn about life but I hope I am not wrong with this. In case any of you curious readers out there are wondering if I have met my soulmate yet the answer is I’m not sure. I might have but I might not know till its time in 5 years. I once thought I met someone who was my soulmate but I was wrong, for now I’m just going wait and let life take its course. I have had a few people say to me they think I have met my soulmate or at least a form of one but honestly I think they are crazy, there is no way someone can know it and I don’t. However, that is my favorite type of soulmate theme with movies, when everyone in the movie knows two people are meant to be together but they aren’t yet so they are just waiting it out. It tends to be the funniest romantic comedies as well. 

Well Readers I’ll see you next time and I hope you enjoyed this.

How Far are You Willing to Stand up for what You Believe In?

Hi my Lovely Readers, 

            The other day a friend asked me about a song and if I have heard of it (Cassie by Flyleaf). At first I said no and he said I should look it up and it was about a girl commenting suicide. I went to look it up today and realized I indeed have actually heard of it, it has just been a very long time since I have and it wasn’t about suicide. This song is about the Columbine shooting and a girl who died in it. Cassie died because another student was asked if he believed in God and she answered for him saying yes. She was shot in the head and it was an instant death. She saved the fellow student’s life instead of saving her life. She stood up for her belief in God. 

Now before I go any further with this post I’d like to state that this is my blog and I am going to express my opinions in matters. You may not like what I might have to say, however I would like to ask for you to respect what I have to say. I do not care what religion or faith you may have all I care about is you follow your faith, respect other’s faith, and do your research before saying anything about another religion.

With that being said I would like to continue my post. I started thinking about how much Cassie believed in her faith, so much that she was willing to die for it. How many of us truly believe in something 100% even if it meant giving up their life? I started to really think about this and started to wonder if I would be able to do this. I am Catholic and I do follow my faith. I like to consider myself more than the Holiday church goer, I try to go every weekend and yes before you ask I love to go to church. I love the way I feel when I leave church I feel happier, I won’t lie I do get distracted at times in church, but when I am in church I love how I feel I love the way it makes me think. One thing that a Priest once said that has always stuck with me is that when you stop questioning your faith you no longer have faith. Which is true in my opinion, having faith means you’re thinking of it and questioning it, it is kind of hard to explain it but you either get it or you don’t. With that all being said I would like to say that I think  if there was a gun next to my head and I knew how I would answer a question depended on whether or not I would live I’d say yes. I cannot know for sure if I truly would do this since I have not been put in that situation before and hopefully will never be in it. I based this answer on how I react in everyday life. When faith gets put in a situation with me I always say what I truly mean and do, trust me I get a lot of looks that I’m crazy when I say yes I pray, go to church, and yes I love it. It makes me wonder is it bad that I can say I love something and can stand up for it.

This brings me to my other thought, we all say we like something or have an opinion on an issue but when it comes down to it do you really stick with it. Here is an example we all know there is a Presidential election coming up this year (and if you don’t go turn on the news). Every candidate is stating what they belief in and what they will do to make this country better. In all honesty no matter which one gets into office they all will change their opinion on issues. For one it is not up to the president whether or not something happens, yes they have an influence of matters and can bring issues up but it is up to congress mostly on what happens next. Most people change their mind based on who they are with to. I’ve seen myself do it before, I also tend to change my mind based on learning more facts the other person tells me. However, once I get my research done on an issue and feel confident with my choice there is no way someone can make me change it. I have also seen it where people are so stuck on an opinion they won’t budge. It could literally be the sky is red instead of blue. They believe it and won’t bother to research it to know the truth. What does it take to really form belief in something?

The way people’s mind work is something else. We form opinions without knowing all the facts or some people do so much research they refuse to open up their minds. I think what I have come to accept as to how I form my beliefs is if a gun was next to my head would I be willing to stand behind my opinion knowing that my answer could cost me my life. Humans are meant to change their minds on subjects, but if you are for a certain issue you better be able to say yes I stand for it when it could cost you your life. I may be young but I think with the beliefs I have and feel 100% in I would stick up for them even if there was a gun next to my head. 

I hope this has givien you guys something to really think about. Thanks for reading.

Valentine's Day!

Hi Love’s 
     
    Maybe you can tell what this Cassie’s Thoughts is going to be about, but for those of you who don’t know I’m going to tell you about one of my favorite holidays Valentine’s Day. As a child my favorite holiday was Valentine’s Day. I did not really have a reason for it except for the fact that I would say I loved love. I no longer think it is my favorite, however I can get very into it but I am a holiday girl I tend to get into every holiday. 
     I was one of those children that for Valentine’s Day would have my mom make treats for everyone and fill out my valentine’s specifically for certain people. I remember thinking “oh I like this card it’s cute you’re going to go to my crush's.” Looking back I think that I got a little too much into Valentine’s. I remember having parties at school everyone was so excited about the candy (it was like a second Halloween) and here I was reading the cards getting super excited about what type I got, I also really liked the candy too. I love seeing children now a days celebrating Valentine’s I think it’s just so cute.  I see little girls getting excited for filling out their cards and dressing up in cute pink and red clothes. While the boys look forward to the treats and get grossed out by the idea of liking a girl.

    My first Valentine’s Day that I celebrated with another person was a nice simple one I got a little bucket the guy made with a big bag of M&M’s (my favorite candy), a little teddy, a blue heart pen, and a smelly pencil. It wasn’t much but it was sweet and like I always say it is the thought that counts not how much they spend. My one best friend and I for the past couple of years now have called each other our valentines. It doesn’t matter if we have a guy valentine or not. We will try to spend a weekend together, give each other chocolate (and maybe a stuff animal), watch a movie or go see one at the theater, and just have a good old BFF bonding time. This year unfortunately we might not get to see each other until March but we will celebrate. 
  Are you ready for a history lesson? Valentine’s Day is in memory of three known saints all of which were martyrs, all named Valentinus. The one I could find the most information on was killed for performing weddings which was against the law and ministering to Christians; a Roman Emperor put the law in place because he believed single men were better at fighting than men that were married. He was imprisoned and fell in love with his jailer daughter. Right before he was killed he wrote a letter to her signing it “From Your Valentine.” Another history lesson for you today would be about the Valentine’s Day massacre.  It happened 1929 in Chicago, Al Capone is the gang leader thought to be responsible for it. He wanted to eliminate his enemies and climax of this was February 14. Seven men associated with the Irish gangster George Moran were shot to death by men dressed as police men. Moran just missed the shooting by a couple of minutes since he was on his way there. Moran was quoted saying that the only person capable of this type of crime was Capone but when asked, Capone stated he was at home in Florida. No one knows for sure who was responsible for the Valentine’s Day Massacre but many believe that Capone was the one behind it.
   Some of you may be asking now what do I plan to do this Valentine’s Day. The answer is I am not entirely sure yet. I have been asked by a couple of guys (I felt so bad telling them no) but not by the one I am hoping for. Also, my friend probably won’t be here to celebrate either. I might have to work but I am not sure yet. There are a few different things I would like to do this holiday though. I am a romantic (at least I think I am) and yes the flowers, chocolate, and fancy dinner does sound nice but I’m not in that for Valentine’s Day. If a guy wanted to do that for me I wouldn’t necessarily say no though either. I really want to see the movie Deadpool and hang out with my valentine. For future valentine’s I have thought of would be have a guy cook me a meal I like or get my favorite take-out and watch a movie we both like. I also would like to celebrate the history of Valentine’s Day by going to play Laser Tag (which I have never done), try shooting a gun for the first time maybe, or something in that area. From what I have learned so far in my life anything can be fun or romantic as long as the two of you are having fun, you don’t have to make a guy suffer every year to do something sappy that can just stress him out.
        My tips for Valentine’s Day is go see each other Valentine’s Day but don’t celebrate it that day. Wait till the craziness dies down and candy if 50% of because as yummy as it is no one should have to spend an arm and a leg for it but that is only a suggestion. If you do celebrate on that day do what I do buy something small and then make something. Put your heart in the gift and show them how much they mean to you. My favorite thing to do is make my valentine his favorite sweet treat or put together a cute little gift basket of some of his favorite things. The most important key to having an awesome Valentine’s Day is to talk to your valentine and make a game plan as to what’s okay and what’s not okay with what you guys do. That’s all I have for you readers today I hope your Valentine’s Day is magical.:)

Super Girl

    Hi, I know been a bit longer than a month since I last wrote but let me tell you thinking about what I want to write can be hard. Also, it has been a busy month.  I now have a new thought to share with my lovely readers.  I recently was talking to someone at my work about super heroes, specifically Super Girl.

    I love Super Girl and the fact she has her own show now is amazing! I’ve liked her since I was little. I’m not sure if it is the fact she has super powers, in my opinion looks like me, or the fact she is just kick butt awesome. Anyways, back to the conversation I was saying how much I enjoy her show the person asked me if I really need a “girl power” show, I think there was something else added to it, but I was in shock a bit by what was said. At first I tried to defend her and let’s just say when I am put on the spot with something I am not at all prepared for I do not defend my case very well. However, it got me thinking if I do need a girl power show. After thinking about it for a couple a days I came up with an answer that satisfied me. I do and I do not need a girl power show, let me explain myself.
      I love the fact that there is a girl super hero to “look up to.” As a little kid I always favored the girl super hero shows over any with a guy in it, even though my options were limited with the variety of girl super heroes. I remember watching the Power Puff Girls as a child and how excited I was when I found a guy friend that wanted to play make believe of it with me or Sailor Moon (which was my all-time favorite super hero that focused on girl power) and playing it with my friends and fighting crime in my back yard. Those were shows I liked not because it was “girl power” but because it showed me that I didn’t need to be a guy to be awesome I was capable of being myself and saving the world. I also loved that in my super hero shows it did not just look at strength or a super power to save the day, it looked at using how smart a girl was, her talents, or something they did every day to help save the day. It encouraged me to be confident and know that I don’t need a superpower to save the day.

The reason that I said I don’t need a “girl power” show in my life is because I really don’t. I did not need a female super hero to show me a girl can save the day I would have figured that out and probably would have watched more boy super hero shows. However, I think that it helped me realize it sooner in my life. As a child (and even as an adult) looking up to someone real or fictional helped me when I was down or need a smile. Girls today are not full of confidence. As much as society wants to push that and make someone confident automatically it does not work that way. Females and males too need to build their own confidence and find it through themselves. Giving a person a role model helps with that confidence builder. Think about it a two year old is learning to walk we buy them a walk like Elmo toy to help them; we are giving them something to look up to and aim to be like. When they are a toddler we say you want to be big like Batman or Daddy you have to eat your vegetables. Parents pick the role models at the beginning of our lives but as we grow and mature we pick our own.
       Today with super heroes I like both male and female ones equally but if someone asks me who I want to be I am going to say a girl, even if it is the Hulk or Captain America I refuse to be a guy (just try not to make the costumes so sexy but that is a whole other issue for another day). Now for Super Girl I love her for more reasons now as an adult. Yes, because she has super powers, looks like me, and kicks butt. Just like I liked her as a kid but (a bit of help from her show since I haven’t had the opportunity to read her comics) I like her back story, the fact that she never gives up, she makes working a real job, saving the world, and dating super easy (which I am still just working on balancing school and work). She makes me smile, brings out the child in me, and makes me think “you know what I know things can get tough but I can do this I have the confidence to be able to do anything I want to.” To answer that guy’s question no I do not need a girl super hero. However, I want one because sometime I need a pick me up reminder of just how SUPER I can be.