Hello,
It has been a while since I’ve wrote anything but lately I
have been getting a few requests to keep blogging and I figured if at least one
person really wants to know what I am thinking then I might as well start up
again for them. Remember do what you can to make others smile and if it means
writing for you guys then I will.
I have always been one of those people into love. In fact
when I was younger (think grade school age) I would tell people I just love
love! What can I say, I may not like it but I am a born romantic. As a romantic
one idea that always stuck into my head was soulmates. I know soulmates exists
I have seen it; it is pure, magical, and just true love. I also know though
that there is no such thing as a “perfect couple.” People disagree at times it
is just human nature, we are not perfect. If there is a couple out there that
never fights however, bless you and teach me your ways please.
I believe as a good writer it is always important to know
your facts before you start writing as well as making sure your audience knows
some stuff as well. The first thing I think we should all recognize is the
technical definition of what a soulmate is and according to a quick Google
search a soulmate is a person ideally
suited to another as a close friend or a romantic partner. Good
job Google you get the award for giving me the simplest definition anyone could
think of. I have come to learn that everyone has their own definition as to
what a soulmate is and I will get to that later but for now how about some more
information. I decided to try and see if I could find out where the idea of a
soulmate came from, well what I could find the oldest record of soulmates were
from Plato. Plato had a story about how humans were originally created with
four arms, four legs, and a single head with two faces. A quick one sentence version
of it was basically Zeus got threaten by them, tore them in half, we now had
two genders, and had to spend the rest of our lives looking for our other half.
I’m stilling trying to figure out honestly if the idea of a soulmate has really
evolved much since then.
Now the other day I was thinking about soulmates and my
generation, I was wondering do millennials even know what romance is. I look
around and see my generation sexting, meeting up for hook ups, people don’t get
married as much, so many other things. I look at all this and just wonder what
happened and where are the wooing gestures, the surprises, and the class? I
want to see the guy plan a date out to dinner and then go play put-put or go
watch the sunset and talk. If a girl is more of a feminist and wants to make
the first move then by all means do it. It does not matter who makes the first
move as long as you both are trying. I understand there are huge differences in
my generation with being the first generation with this much technology, but
come on. Nothing is going to replace a hand written letter there is just so
much elegance with it. A sweet text you will not always get the chance to look
back at it in 10 years but a letter or note you will. I have seen letters that
are taped up because it has gotten refolded so many times. That right there you
can see the love those two people have for each other through a piece of paper,
by what is written in the letter and how worn out the paper is by being read so
much. Thinking of what millennials value as romance for a lot of them made me wonder
do we as a generation even believe in soulmates.
This became my favorite part of getting ready to write, I
decided to go investigate and star asking my peers what was their definition of
a soulmate and what type of person/ personality would their soulmate be. I was
honestly shocked by what I learned for some reason. All but one guy I talked to
said that soulmates do not exist and with the ladies all the females believed
in soulmates. Remember just because the results with the genders were similar
does not mean that each person had similar answers. Most of the gentlemen said
that they do not believe in soulmates but they all had a similar answer that
involved being with a person you love/care about. The other gentlemen at first
also did not believe in soulmates but after thinking about it said he thinks
there might be soulmates out there but it would be extremely hard to find. With
what type of person their soulmate was some of the answers I got had to be a
sports fan, caring, and had to like cars. With guys I didn’t expect to get much
explanation but I feel like I did a pretty good job getting a bit of an idea of
what they think (at least a little). The females were (as always) more in
detailed as to what they believed soulmates were. One said she believes in
soulmates but also feels it was put into our heads more as we were growing up
with the princesses and fairytales. She also said her idea of a soulmate is not
a person who she never fights with because that is just not human but someone
who is there for her and makes her happy. Most of the girls had very similar definitions
as to what a soulmate is. I want to share with you two of the answers I got
from people I asked one female and one male both of which I thought to be the
best for each gender.
“I don’t think soulmates exist. Even though I’m religious I believe
the world is controlled chaos with each decision creating all different chaotic
path. The only thing that holds it together is our perception and our belief
but I believe for someone that you love the closest thing I could say for a
soulmate is the person that makes all the fighting the hardships and stress
worth it someone you know that will get in the trenches with you and have your
back.” Male
“My definition of a soulmate is that there isn’t just one
person for everyone. Each person has multiple soul mate that they meet
throughout their life. These can be friends or romantic relationships and you
can have more than one at a time. These may not last forever because we are
still human, but they are people with whom we can connect to better than anyone
else, even people we’ve known for a long time. These soul mates are people who
make life easier to do the hard work that a relationship takes to maintain. For
me, a soul mate would be a best friend with whom I can share anything and they
have my complete trust. They would be a person who I would want to hear
anything they had to say and them trust me. We would be equals in every way,
but we would balance each other out. They would be kind, intelligent,
affectionate, a huge nerd, and most importantly they would love me for
everything I am, was and will be and I will do the same for them. I hope that I
can find one of my soul mates as a partner for life.” Female
I have shared what others have said in my generation as to
what they believed a soulmate is and what they want as their soulmate, so I
think it is time I share mine with you guys.
My definition of a soulmate is someone who is your best friend, that
person who can make you laugh no matter what mood you are in. A soulmate is supposed
to be that person that is always there for you no matter what happens and will
do their best to understand. It is a connection between two souls that understand eachother. They are worth the fight and stress and they see
you as the same. I believe without a doubt that your soulmate should be the
person you marry but I also think that there might be another type of
soulmate(s) were it is a best friend. Now with person/personality I would like
to think it would be someone who shares the same values to me. The person to make me smile and laugh when
all I want to do is cry. He will know I can tend to be lazy at times and I need
that push to go do the stuff I have to like (school work or cleaning). The person
that I will always feel safe and protected with and never have a doubt in my
mind that he won’t be able to, when something bad happens they will be the
first person that pops in my mind. My cheerleader when I am down. This person
will know that I don’t always feel like I have the time to eat or relax and
will ask me if I have. When I say no and that I’m not hungry will follow me
into the room a bit after I’m in there and make me eat just because he cares
about me. I think the most important thing though is that he will be my best
friend and I will be his and no matter how tough life gets or stressed life
gets we know it’s going to be alright as long as we stick together and never
lose faith in each other.
I know I am still young and I have lot to learn about life
but I hope I am not wrong with this. In case any of you curious readers out
there are wondering if I have met my soulmate yet the answer is I’m not sure. I
might have but I might not know till its time in 5 years. I once thought I met
someone who was my soulmate but I was wrong, for now I’m just going wait and
let life take its course. I have had a few people say to me they think I have
met my soulmate or at least a form of one but honestly I think they are crazy,
there is no way someone can know it and I don’t. However, that is my favorite
type of soulmate theme with movies, when everyone in the movie knows two people
are meant to be together but they aren’t yet so they are just waiting it out.
It tends to be the funniest romantic comedies as well.
Well Readers I’ll see
you next time and I hope you enjoyed this.
